How to love better - Book review
How to love better by Yung Pueblo is a Nonfiction book that was published in 2025.
The audiobook was read by the author with an additional segent at the end of the book featuring his wife in an intimate interview.
In the next sections I will dive into what The Mad Wife is about, my thoughts, and my final verdict. In case there are any spoilers, you will be warned ahead so you’ll get to decide whether you’d like to continue reading this blog post or come back after you’ve read the book. ;)
You can also refer to my book rating guide that will be attached at the bottom.
The blurb
Love enters our lives in many forms: friends, family, intimate partners. But all of these relationships are deeply influenced by the love we have for ourselves. If we see our relationships as opportunities to be fully present in our healing and growth, then, Yung Pueblo assures us, we can transform and meet one another with compassion instead of judgment.
In How to Love Better, Yung Pueblo examines all aspects of relationships, from the rose-colored early days when you may be hesitant to show your full self, to the challenges that can arise without clear communication, to dealing with heartbreak and healing as you close a chapter of your life. The power of looking inward remains at the core of Yung Pueblo’s teachings. Ego and attachment can become barriers in a relationship, so the more self-aware you become, the more you can support both your partner and yourself.
(source: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/215100951)
Thoughts on the book
How to Love Better is not necessarily a book that offers groundbreaking new insights or references extensive scientific research, but rather one that looks at relationships from a spiritual and philosophical perspective. Many lightbulb moments may be ones you have already discovered yourself, yet I still found these reminders helpful.
Sometimes we overlook what becomes obvious once we focus on the present.
Since I listened to the audiobook — which was narrated by the author himself — I often felt like I was listening to a podcast rather than having a story read to me. Some points, such as the importance of meditation for the author and his relationship, were repeated multiple times. In that case, I would have also found it insightful if an introduction to the practice itself had been included. Even a full chapter dedicated to how grounding yourself can help relationships would have been great.
The book leans heavily on personal experiences and may not be universally applicable, although I certainly hope that respect and kindness toward one’s partner are universal standards. As mentioned above, meditation — albeit scientifically proven to benefit overall mental well-being — may not be the right answer for everyone, and that is okay.
The writing style of the book is rather Instagrammable — let me explain. Some poetic bits and pieces of advice could easily be found placed on an Instagram page filled with quotes: easy to read, universally understood, or equally open to discussion. For my personal taste, I could have done with fewer repetitions and therefore a shorter book that got straight to the point.
This section will include spoilers for the book. You have been warned :)
Circling back to the first-person perspective, I find it courageous of Yung Pueblo to publicly share his experiences with love and relationships with readers. The story of him and his wife going from drug use to finding their way to silent meditation retreats is one unique to the couple. This also demonstrates that books about relationships cannot offer a one-size-fits-all solution.
I especially enjoyed listening to the final segment, where I got to hear the married couple speak together. It was obvious in the way they spoke to one another that they hold a lot of love and respect for each other. You could hear all the “shoulds” from the previous chapters being put into practice during that interview: active listening, patience, understanding that individual growth is in fact individual, kindness, and more.
Overall, How to Love Better is a good pep talk about loving yourself better and showing up more consciously in relationships.
Memorable parts of the book
This section will include spoilers of the book. You have been warned :)
The ego wants to win. It does not want to admit being wrong.
We want other people to feel the same way we do in an attempt to connect, whether that is joy or sorrow.
Accepting that change is constant will help you let go of a “perfect” picture of a relationship.
Understand that you will not always be on the same page when it comes to individual growth. Love requires patience.
Verdict
3/5 stars
I enjoyed How to lovebetter! I might pick up another book from Yung Pueblo again in the future.
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Lead your dreams,
Soso
